What’s a topic or issue about which you’ve changed your mind?
It’s funny that this question comes up today, the day after my journey to becoming a Swiftie concluded. I can honestly say I changed my mind about Taylor Swift. Never hated her, just was never a fan. But now I’m kind of obsessed like a real Swiftie! I wrote about the conclusion to this transformation here: The Journey is Complete
As far as other things, I do tend to change my mind. I think that’s a part of being human. We grow, we learn, we develop different opinions about things. A more interesting question might be, what have I NOT changed my mind about.
But, as far as changes, I’m first thinking of my parents. Last year I was really wanting to continue trying to have a connection with them. Now? Not so much. Really, not at all. I’ve decided it’s not worth the emotional trauma staying in communication with them. So I have gone no contact. Which has been amazing!
Other changes relate to food. I think my husband appreciates this change the most. He’s a foodie and when we first met, I was still eating food based on how picky my parents were about what they liked. There wasn’t much that I liked and I frequently turned my nose up at things. I remember being out to dinner with him and being critical of the romaine lettuce on my burger. Romaine lettuce was too veiny and crunchy! Ew! I picked it off my burger. Now though? I actually prefer it to iceberg lettuce. More nutrients from what I understand and I now definitely appreciate the extra crunch. After 25 years of being with my husband, there is very little I won’t eat and I will definitely try anything at least once.
Another thing I changed my mind about relates to our house. Before my mother-in-law passed, I really didn’t like the idea of moving into her house after she died. Her house is old and in need of quite a few upgrades and repairs. I didn’t want to leave the “new” vibe that we had in our apartment. But ultimately, we moved in here and now I wouldn’t have it any other way. This house is still old, but it’s old because his family has lived here for 50+ years. There’s history here (and probably a ghost). Sure, there’s still work to do here, but I am absolutely happy with being here. Wouldn’t want to live anywhere else.
There are, of course, other things that I think differently about now. I mean, I changed my whole life last year because I began to think differently about my career and the person who was leading it. That’s probably the biggest, most recent change. Other changes aren’t as big as that. Like cars, I used to think Kias were good cars. Not anymore. Don’t buy a Kia!
It’s just part of human nature overall to have opinions and really, it’s a good thing to adapt our thinking about things in this world. Being static our whole lives, unflinching or unmoved in our way of thinking just doesn’t seem like it’s good for us or those around us. Some people just don’t change their minds though when they really need to (cough, cough, politics). There’s nothing wrong with having an open mind and being willing to change our thinking. In fact, for the love of humanity, let’s all just please keep an open mind about things. It doesn’t have to be everything. Being set in your way about some things isn’t bad. Nothing wrong with sticking to your convictions. And that would be a whole other post about what we should and shouldn’t be open-minded about, but for now, again, let’s just try to be flexible in our thinking about some things. Looking at you, keyboard warriors, who argue with people on the internet in ugly, mean ways. Please consider the fact that you might be wrong. It’s o.k., I promise.
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